Creating a Quantum Leap

A little over a year ago, I was working for a school district, in the middle of a divorce, trying to figure out what I was going to do with my life. Today, I am a highly successful life coach, own a thriving business, have love and joy in my life and my dreams are on fire! I say none of this to impress you, but to impress upon you that a quantum leap is not only possible, it’s probable if you work with the laws that govern success. We hear these underlying laws in all the religions across the world, in autobiographies of successful people, in books like Think and Grow Rich where successful people were deeply studied, but we didn’t learn these things as children. When we did, we weren’t told how to apply them in daily life. How did I go from the middle of an upsetting divorce, not knowing what to do next, to being invited to speak on stage with one of the top names in spirituality and personal growth as one of her most successful mentees? It was a rigorous, yet simple process. There are three keys to a quantum leap: vision, thought patterns and support.

Make a Decision for a Vision

It’s crucial that you know where you’re going and decide that you’re getting there. It sounds simple, but if I asked you where you would love be in 5 years, would you know where that is? More importantly, would you have the unwavering faith that you will get there? I had a very clear vision of the things I wanted to create in my life. I envisioned myself as a highly successful coach helping dozens of women to life a life they love. I visioned for the amount of income I would generate and how many people I would help. I also visioned for love in my life, a thoughtful, caring, good-looking, fun man to build dreams with me. But past the vision of it, I had the faith that it would all work out, that everything I dreamed for was lining up for me. That the universe was conspiring to help me with all of it. If you are going to make a quantum leap, you have to know your destination.

Change your Dominant Thought Patterns

Once you have a vision, it’s crucial to notice the thoughts that are not in harmony with that vision. Your dream life already exists. Everything you need to make it come true is already a part of this wondrous universe we live in, it’s just not in your awareness yet. Your awareness can shift with every thought you have. I had a vision of becoming a highly successful coach. If you have a vision for being successful, but your dominant thought pattern is about all the things that could go wrong, you are living on a frequency far away from your dreams and visions. Once you get on the frequency of, “I am successful, I am changing lives, everything's coming together in this very moment,” you will have access to ideas that will help you serve that vision. You can achieve a quantum leap only through making a quantum leap in the thoughts you hold.

Invest in a Mentor

When you are inside the frame, it is hard to see the picture. The most successful people seek out others who know the ways to create results. LeBron James invests millions of dollars annually in his own athletic and personal development. Oprah has transformational coaches to help her achieve her dreams. Going it alone is a recipe for disaster as we can’t see our own blocks, and, without assistance, will continue to think from the same mind that created our current results. When hiring a coach, you want to look for three things. Do they know how to create results? Do they create results in their own life? Do they have a track record of success with clients? Having someone guide you through the process will grow you leaps and bounds as opposed to going it alone.

If you dedicate yourself to having a vision, changing your thoughts and investing in a structure of support, you will absolutely experience a quantum leap, just like I did. Life is about feeling alive, seeing how far you can go, understanding your own greatness. As Jim Rohn said, “You’ve got to stay here ‘til you go!” Why not make it an amazing, beautiful, green-growing life while you’re living it.

If you have dreams of changing careers, growing your business, falling in love again or reaching your 2019 goals, and would love a structure of support, fill out the contact me form and I’ll help you get started.

You, too, can live a life you absolutely love!

xo,

Lauren Brollier


The Warrior Within

Who is it in me that has a body, but is more than that? Who is it in me that has a past but is more than that? Who is it in me that can hear and observe every thought I think? The Buddhists call this the observer self. It’s the Self with the capital S, the part of us that’s infinite in nature. It is remarkable to think about just how powerful we are. No matter what happens in our lives, we can withstand. There is a warrior within all of us.

I love watching shows like America’s Got Talent or World of Dance, because I find myself uplifted and inspired by nearly every act on the stage, living their dreams. Many have overcome obstacles to get to that place. Recently, on America’s Got Talent Champions, I watched a performance by a young woman named Kechi, a Nigerian-American singer. Her skin is visibly burned, her face nearly unrecognizable from what she had looked like before a devastating event. Kechi was in a plane crash in 2005 and is one of only two survivors. The crash took 107 lives, 60 of whom were Kechi’s classmates and friends. She suffered burns to sixty five percent of her body and spent seven months in the hospital recovering. Kechi found the warrior within. Not a horrific crash, terrible pain, losing her classmates or a hundred surgeries could extinguish her inner light. It’s tempting to think that there is something special in her, that she somehow has a strength most of us don’t possess, but there is a warrior within each of us. It is the part of us that keeps going no matter what happens to us. Kechi is a demonstration of the power, but all of us have access to it.

The power breathing her kept breathing her that day, and that power is breathing us. Whatever name you give to that power, God, Universe, the higher Self, love; it is ever present in you. Building a relationship with that power will enhance your life in so many ways. You will feel more grateful; your relationships will become more meaningful and the sun will shine a bit brighter. You have withstood every circumstance, situation and condition so far in your life, and if you take the time to notice, you are better for it. You are more than all those things. You have a warrior within ready to carry you through your darkest hours and greatest joys. Take note of just how strong you are.

A practical way to get in touch with the warrior within is to wake up each morning with a grateful heart. I begin each day reminding myself that there is something wonderful going on with me because the power breathing me woke me up this morning. As I lay in bed, I count ten things that I am deeply and profoundly grateful for. This practice connects me with my inner warrior. I invite you to try this daily practice for three days and notice how it changes your outlook, then leave a comment below and share your success. Much love to you and your warrior within.  

Xo

Lauren Brollier

I Said Yes and I Don't Regret It

It was a beautiful day in Los Angeles, about 75 degrees despite it being the middle of January. Sitting outside of Jersey Mike’s sandwich shop near the airport, I reflected with my close friend and partner in crime about just how far this year had taken me. In January of 2018, I was in the middle of a huge transition in my life, a divorce that occurred after a little over a year of marriage. I had just moved out of my home, and lost my two beloved dogs in the process. While I loved my job, I couldn’t help but notice there was so much more inside of me wanting to emerge. I was absolutely sick and tired of stress, commuting, waking up at 5:30 and the fact that, as a teacher, no matter how hard you work, you can’t make more money. It was at that point that I decided to take a huge risk, and started a completely different career as I started my new, single life.

As we sat in the sun, reflecting on the year, my friend said, “You know why you’ve been successful?” She said, “You just kept saying yes.” That got me thinking. What she said was simply stated, and so true. When I first visioned for a new business, a new relationship, a healthier lifestyle, more financial freedom, I had no idea HOW I was going to do it. I focused on the WHAT. I set my eyes on what I would love and had the faith it would happen. But, I also took action every step of the way. When opportunities came my way, I said, “Yes.”

It’s really that simple, although not necessarily easy. Think about it. What are you saying no to and what are you saying yes to? When I had the opportunity to become a speaker and coach, it scared me. I knew it was for me and that’s why I was so frightened. When you’re about to do something you know is going to change your life, the part of you that likes comfort kicks in and you will feel afraid. I was about to invest 5-figures into a business I had no experience in.  In your life, opportunities come your way frequently. No one has more or less opportunity. We all live in a body, with a brain, in a universe of unlimited possibilities. Do you say yes when they come your way? I said yes. I bravely invested in my new venture. When my friend said, “Why don’t you put your first workshop date on the calendar and send people save the dates?” I said yes, even though I wasn’t trained or certified yet. 16 people showed up for that first workshop!

Then I did something others perceived as crazy. I turned in my letter of resignation before I even had one client. I said yes to my new business. I said, “This is going to be a success.” I knew that if my energy was only half invested, I would fail, so I said yes to success. Not long into my new business, I had the opportunity to join a local networking group. It was going to cost a little over $1,000 to join. I was nervous, but I said yes. That investment has returned to me ten fold.

In my personal life, I said yes to dating again. The voice in my head said, “You will fail. You aren’t good at this. You don’t pick well.” And trust me, it wasn’t just the voice in my head that said that. People close to me said, “Isn’t it a little soon? Don’t get hurt again.” But I said yes. Not every date went well! Sometimes it was funny, other times just awkward, but past failure is not indicative of future outcomes. Henry Ford owned several failed businesses before he started Ford Motor Company at age 53. I am not comparing my dating life to a world-changing automobile tycoon by any means, but I will say that I am sure happy I kept saying yes, because now I am discovering what it feels like to fall in love again. Are you letting your past hold you back from love?

Examine what it is you long for and ask yourself if there is a way you can say yes. Notice opportunities and how fast you convince yourself they are not for you. Saying yes to my dreams is the cause of my success. You can be extremely successful in your life, but it’s going to take different patterns and behaviors than the ones that created your past results. Even if you love your results, the next level requires a shift. Say yes to opportunities, but more importantly, say yes to your dreams. You never know how long you have here on earth. I know when I reach the end of my life, I am never going to regret the yeses, but of one thing I am certain, I would regret the nos.

With Love and Blessings,

Lauren Brollier


4 Words That Kill Your Dreams and Hinder Success

It is pretty common for people to use phrases that are widely accepted in our society such as, “I am such a klutz,” or “can’t have your cake and eat it, too.” We think nothing of those expressions, and yet patterns of thought get energized overtime and live in our subconscious. It got me thinking, what are some common words we use that actually kill our dreams and hinder our success? Furthermore, how can we tell if a word or phrase is going to cause us to be unsuccessful? A quick way to test a word or phrase is to notice how you feel when you use them. Do you feel expansive and more alive, or do you feel contracted and negative? From this simple test and through my experience both in life and with clients, phrases that include one of these four words usually prevent us from seeing our vision for a life we would love come true.

Should- The word “should” is usually used when we “should” do something, but we aren’t really excited about it. I used to tell myself, “I should go for a jog today,” or “I should reach out to this person.” If you really think about it, this produces very contracted feelings! Living passionately and feeling alive isn’t in harmony with “should.” Here’s what to say instead. If you hear yourself saying, “I should do the laundry,” flip it to, “I know that I have some laundry to do. When would I love to do that?” Or, “Exercise is good for me. Which exercise would I love to do today?” This is a much more expansive way of living!

Guilty- I have heard many family members, friends and clients say they feel “guilty” about things for which they have done no wrongdoing. An example, “I feel guilty that I make such a good living, and my brother is just struggling to make ends meet.” This is a very contractive and not accurate use of the word. Guilty implies intent to harm. Guilty means we have done something wrong. If you are living a good life, you have done nothing wrong and are not trying to harm another. What a more accurate description of the emotion is that most people think of as “guilt” is actually sadness or compassion or a lack of control. What the person is really feeling here, is that they would love for their brother to live a more abundant life. A rising tide lifts all boats! If we are living the life we love, there is no wrongdoing, and therefore, guilt is not an appropriate term.

Want- This one is subtle. It has to do with our subconscious. The subconscious emotionalizes thoughts the conscious mind gives to it. If we are constantly thinking about what we want, the subconscious mind emotionalizes wanting, wishing, and that has a feeling of lack to it. If we tell the subconscious an image of the life we would love living instead, there is no sense of lack, and it actually believes the image is already happening in our lives. So, if you want a deeper, more thriving relationship for example, focus on the image of what that would look like, whether it be a big hug, laying in bed on a Sunday morning and chatting with a partner, or sharing a glass of wine by the fire holding hands. Your subconscious will emotionalize that image, rather than the feeling of want. When an image you love is energized in the subconscious it helps your conscious mind to take actions in harmony with expansion and not lack.

Try- “I will try.” Ah! The killer of dreams and success. There is no such thing! We are either doing something, or not doing it. You may fail, yes. You may succeed, yes. But you cannot succeed with as weak of an attempt as, “I’ll try.” Instead, begin saying, “I am doing this!” The energy is so much more powerful and expansive. Try actually implies the expectation of failure; it’s a defense mechanism. Do you want to expect failure, or do you want to expect success? Your vision and dreams are actually a sacred soul path between you and the Infinite. If you are truly in love with your dreams and would love to see them realized, make a decision for that life.

Notice over the next week how many times you use the words should, guilt, want and try. Replace them with more expansive words. See how it affects your mood and your results! Leave a comment below with questions or to share your experience.

With Love and Blessings,

Lauren Brollier